rumpshaker said: i’ve ruined relationships by being too childish and i can see that now looking back on it.
Ah yeah, I’ve been there. My depression gets in the way of a lot of things for me, but the main thing I know that is wrong difficult for me is that I’m not very affectionate. I prefer to not be apart of "that" couple that is always or constantly all over each other in public - I hate it. I have a hard time holding people’s hands in public, or even kissing them. It’s rare for me to actually be that open to that type of affection. I would have to feel either very comfortable or intensely for me to emote any type of affection in public. I never realized how important showing that emotion was for some men, but it’s definitely something that guys aren’t used to with me. It’s weird too, because deep down inside this cold tiny heart 3 sizes too small is a giant romantic asshole waiting to be swept away by simple shit. Not into flowers or anything, but I like noticing all that small stuff. It means more than any grand gesture.
aw the ruining of your own relationship is what i was wondering :(
I think I have before. I’m not currently in a relationship so I don’t think this applies at the moment. But I have definitely ruined some good things for myself in the past, and possibly now. I’m just not sure how it’s panning out for me at the moment - I haven’t seen the repercussions of my actions just yet, but if I can correctly guess I’d say the answer is a big yes? I hope I’m understanding your question correctly hahaha. If by ruining my own relationship, with myself??? I think the answer is still both a yes and no. I’m still trying to figure myself out, and figure out the right way to fully enjoy myself. Sometimes its rough, and other days it’s easy.
I don’t know the answer to that. I’ve never been the type of woman to deal with someone who has openly cheated on their significant other. I have been in situations, where the guy I’m seeing is lying to me, but usually I don’t find out until after the damage was already done.
When I was younger I was in a very very serious relationship that lasted 4 years. He was my first true love, and the first person I ever deeply cared for. After the first year that we had broken up he married my best friend’s ex girlfriend (who was his first love). They were married for a few years and had a child…. I know that their relationship was tumultuous from the beginning and she blamed a lot of their failures on me, because we were still friends during the course of their marriage. After that year, I never spoke with him again - he broke my heart. Did I sleep with him while he was married? No.
As far as any other type of relationships - I think I have ruined some. I think I may have ruined a recent one, and I constantly feel like I had some major part in the major loss of a female best friend. I also feel liberated in the same swoop - so I guess the answer is yes and no. I wouldn’t really be human otherwise, no? *sigh*